16. Two months and a trip to Hemel later…

March saw us hit a red-bricked-bureaucratic wall. Trump-like in size and dictatorial nature, an immovable and nonsensical bullshit barrier, seemingly designed to prevent capable, well meaning people from adopting traumatised children. Hang on a second whilst I clamber down from my pedestal and take a deep breath. Actually, now we're tentatively moving forward and the … Continue reading 16. Two months and a trip to Hemel later…

2. Before the beginning

Like many people we did a little ‘shopping around’ when it came to selecting an adoption agency and went to a few different information evenings. The first (voluntary organisation) was a little disorganised, the speaker arrived late and we were somewhat non-plussed by the presentation…although given we’d read every shred of information we could find … Continue reading 2. Before the beginning

3. Rinse and repeat

Despite my misgivings, the counselling sessions gave me to opportunity to recognise that I had come to terms with my losses. This, in turn, gave me the confidence to believe that we could (can) withstand this process. Cara’s feedback was that she needed to be more open - again, something which doesn’t come naturally to … Continue reading 3. Rinse and repeat